Pain is Pain!
My children came home for a short vacation. We enjoyed family meal together and talked about everything. We talked about all the pains that people had: physical, mental, and spiritual. In the middle of our conversation, my daughter said, “Pain is pain!” It was the door for all of us to enter into mutual understanding of each other and of other people.
Many times we think our pain is greater than other pains. Many Korean American immigrant parents say to their children that they had gone through lot of things (like Japanese regime, Korean War, national poverty, and political conflicts, and many oppressive cultural tortures) and the children did not appreciate what they had (democratic and rich society, wide open opportunities, stable process for achievement, and powerful nation). They used to say that they had no food and no toy. Then they shouted to the so-called spoiled children, “Look, how much you have already!” However, do the parents really know that the so-called spoiled children want to find just one reason not to commit suicide tonight? Do they really understand that they also have pain (whether it is growing pain or not) and they are overwhelmed under the weight of their lives? Yes, we parents call that simple luxury! But it can be an issue of life and death for the little ones.
Every pain is pain. For those who experience it as pain, it is pain! Let us embrace pain of other people and support with love! We do not need one more person who wants to judge and says it loud but we need one more person who tries to understand us and walks with us. The elderly have their unique pain and the young have their own pain. The homeless have their great pain and the home owners have their unbearable pain. The homosexuals have their long-lasting pain and the heterosexuals have their deep rooted pain. Let us not exaggerate our own pain as if others have no pain. We have all pain because we all are sinners.
So, Paul cried out, “Wretched man that I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?” (Romans 7:24). To this cry, Jesus said, “Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest” (Gospel of Matthew 11:28). So, if you have pain, unbearable pain, and if you feel that nobody truly understand you, would you come to Jesus, who would accept you as you are and forgive your sins and die for you on the Cross for you?